Posted September 4, 2012 by Tiffani Call
As my big day approaches and is now 60 days away I am contemplating doing the cocktail hour a bit different then done before.
“Tradition” says cocktail hour is time for pictures of family, bride & groom pictures together, the artsy shots with the sunset and the couple and all that jazz. That is all great but that is not us. I also want to take advantage of the photographer, so here’s my thought: I am digging on the “First Look” idea so we can get those more formal pictures out of the way.
For those of you who don’t know what that means, it’s when you schedule a time with the photographer to be revealed to your soon-to-be spouse and the photographer is able to capture it in a different way then the traditional Ceremony pictures.
Our FantaSea Brides can do this prior to departure on the bow of the ship, sky deck or head next door to Mothers Beach or Burton Chase Park for some one-on-one time with your true love (and photographer of course). I have done this dozens of times with couples and my favorite way of doing this is:
– The Couple is taken separately to a pretty spot where they are brought back to back and they hold hands for as long as they can tolerate savoring the moment and when they are ready and bawling their eyes out they turn around. *sniffles*
The Bride & Groom revealed to guests still remains a surprise during the Ceremony.
My wedding venue has a gorgeous outdoor garden bedroom with antique furniture – perfect for a private photo shoot conveniently located next to where the Cocktail Hour will be held. I would like our photographer to be stationed there and doing private photo shoots for our out of town family, babies whose first introduction to the family is on our wedding day, grandparents, etc. No point, smile and shoot pics. Real photo shoots of loved ones by themselves and some with us as well. We are celebrating family as well as our love for our wedding and I imagine this going down much like a pop-up photo studio.
This can replace a photo booth for those wanting to save some money and will only be available during the Cocktail Hour. No props. Just love. Maybe some added hanging décor in the background or the words “LOVE” written on a chalkboard.
I would LOVE to hear your feedback and suggestions about this idea. Please feel free to email your thoughts on this to me at email@example.com.
As always, Keep Calm and Marry On!
Posted August 29, 2012 by Tiffani Call
There is no magic book (that I know of) for wedding planners that says, “the planning process for my own wedding will be free of hurdles”, or girdles for that matter.
The Hurdles: As a planner, I’ve talked many a stressed out bride off the ledge when dealing with the nuances of family and friends that do and will occur during the planning stage. Honestly, how could there not be at least a few arguments about finances, guest lists, family dynamics, and ex family members? It seems like weddings can lead to some seriously needed group family therapy sessions! Of course, we have been experiencing our own related speed bumps and I have to say they do tend to slow down the happiness drive down the aisle. As I methodically bob and weave my way through the family issue minefield I need to remind myself of all the info my Maids of Honor keep telling me, it’s the same pearls of wisdom I tell my brides:
- Whoever pitches in the most has the biggest say in how your day goes. This may be true (it is for us) to some extent, we all need the financial help and appreciate it. It also leads us into the depths of vulnerability. Remember these words “we appreciate your help but are still going to do our wedding our way”. After all, this is a celebration of marriage about the bride & groom. This is not a chance for family to step into the control room to sway certain aspects that benefit them especially when it comes to old issues. My advice to brides – put the stressful issues back on the family. Don’t become the newly appointed peacemaker because you have accepted help. Thank them and let them duke out the issues on their own.
- When Bridal Party dynamics collide, take cover. I could not choose just 1 or 2 of my besties to stand by my side….I have 5 Maids of Honor, all strong and confident women who love to say it like it is. I am super stoked they all agreed on the dress and colors. Whew! So far so good. Oh boy, I just love my support team and they are equally loved in my heart. When the stars align and they are in the same room (trying on dresses) it is best to relax, practice bridal breathing and just enjoy. While they are not standing up with us traditionally at the front of the aisle, their support and attention to me at this time are appreciated more than I can say. We will be surrounded with love during our ceremony by my Dad, Brother, Daughter & Sister are as well as my fiancé’s parents and his 2 gorgeous children. We are lucky to have all our loved ones in one place for the first time ever!
The Girdles: Let the hate train begin! Self-confidence and image is a prime concern for all brides to be as well as the bridal party. We suddenly notice pictures of ourselves more closely than we ever had and we start worrying that if “I don’t lose weight before the…” Well, you can fill in the blank from there. Why? Of course this has also been my concern lately, I got swept up too. Secret weapon – great photographer who does amazing editing! Truly, I would be happy just feeling better about myself, it’s amazing what a 5-10 pound loss can do for a girl. Thankfully, I know this can be accomplished with realistic weight goals, stretching, hair, make-up and a little help from my friend photoshop. If not, bring on the girdle! I am reminded of a FantaSea bride who was feeling less confident about her engagement weight, only to be told by her fiancé during a meeting that he wanted to marry her from the first day he met her, regardless of what she had been wearing at that moment (slouchy sweat pants and a one size fits most t-shirt) and that he would love her today, tomorrow and years down the road after they had done the mutual gain, the hair loss and the middle aged thing. Girdle or no girdle, I know that I am loved.
Keep Calm & Marry On. We can do this.
Posted February 17, 2012 by Stephanie Ginzburg
Some of you were so excited about our Wedding Blog post yesterday that we thought we’d give you a little more insight into some of our favorites. Wedding Blogs are a great way to keep up with trends, discover creative ideas and DIY projects, reception themes and a great place to get some helpful etiquette tips when dealing with the multiple issues that arise for your big day.
We wanted to share a great site outlining many of our top picks again here: Weddingblogs100.com
We love that everything from The Offbeat Bride to Budget Planning to DIY’ers and every wedding extreme between exists. Who knows, maybe one of you will feel the desire to start a Nautical Bride Blog, we’d be happy to assist.
AND – if any of your single, but looking bridesmaids are in need of an alternative to catching a bouquet, check out Evan Marc Katz, Dating Coach extraordinaire. He’s local and yes, he’s for real.