Posted August 31, 2012 by Fantasea Yachts Team
We love this video of Karelyn & Robby 7-12-12 married aboard the RegentSea on a beautiful Saturday in July. Pre-wedding photos and Video taken at the Marriott Marina del Rey, GLO Lounge. Thank you to David and Kelsey Pluskat of Charles Lauren Films for the beautiful footage.
Posted August 29, 2012 by Fantasea Yachts Team
There is no magic book (that I know of) for wedding planners that says, “the planning process for my own wedding will be free of hurdles”, or girdles for that matter.
The Hurdles: As a planner, I’ve talked many a stressed out bride off the ledge when dealing with the nuances of family and friends that do and will occur during the planning stage. Honestly, how could there not be at least a few arguments about finances, guest lists, family dynamics, and ex family members? It seems like weddings can lead to some seriously needed group family therapy sessions! Of course, we have been experiencing our own related speed bumps and I have to say they do tend to slow down the happiness drive down the aisle. As I methodically bob and weave my way through the family issue minefield I need to remind myself of all the info my Maids of Honor keep telling me, it’s the same pearls of wisdom I tell my brides:
- Whoever pitches in the most has the biggest say in how your day goes. This may be true (it is for us) to some extent, we all need the financial help and appreciate it. It also leads us into the depths of vulnerability. Remember these words “we appreciate your help but are still going to do our wedding our way”. After all, this is a celebration of marriage about the bride & groom. This is not a chance for family to step into the control room to sway certain aspects that benefit them especially when it comes to old issues. My advice to brides – put the stressful issues back on the family. Don’t become the newly appointed peacemaker because you have accepted help. Thank them and let them duke out the issues on their own.
- When Bridal Party dynamics collide, take cover. I could not choose just 1 or 2 of my besties to stand by my side….I have 5 Maids of Honor, all strong and confident women who love to say it like it is. I am super stoked they all agreed on the dress and colors. Whew! So far so good. Oh boy, I just love my support team and they are equally loved in my heart. When the stars align and they are in the same room (trying on dresses) it is best to relax, practice bridal breathing and just enjoy. While they are not standing up with us traditionally at the front of the aisle, their support and attention to me at this time are appreciated more than I can say. We will be surrounded with love during our ceremony by my Dad, Brother, Daughter & Sister are as well as my fiancé’s parents and his 2 gorgeous children. We are lucky to have all our loved ones in one place for the first time ever!
The Girdles: Let the hate train begin! Self-confidence and image is a prime concern for all brides to be as well as the bridal party. We suddenly notice pictures of ourselves more closely than we ever had and we start worrying that if “I don’t lose weight before the…” Well, you can fill in the blank from there. Why? Of course this has also been my concern lately, I got swept up too. Secret weapon – great photographer who does amazing editing! Truly, I would be happy just feeling better about myself, it’s amazing what a 5-10 pound loss can do for a girl. Thankfully, I know this can be accomplished with realistic weight goals, stretching, hair, make-up and a little help from my friend photoshop. If not, bring on the girdle! I am reminded of a FantaSea bride who was feeling less confident about her engagement weight, only to be told by her fiancé during a meeting that he wanted to marry her from the first day he met her, regardless of what she had been wearing at that moment (slouchy sweat pants and a one size fits most t-shirt) and that he would love her today, tomorrow and years down the road after they had done the mutual gain, the hair loss and the middle aged thing. Girdle or no girdle, I know that I am loved.
Keep Calm & Marry On. We can do this.
Posted August 21, 2012 by Fantasea Yachts Team
Choosing my linen colors ended up being a huge help and relief as I am finally able to set the tables in my mind, pick the MOH dresses and finalize the florals. Being a bride/planner definitely has me at an advantage as the vendors who I chose to assist with my wedding I have been working with since 2004. They are my friends (never having received a commission or kick-back, just referrals for the great services they provide). Their generosity now that it is my turn to bound happily down the aisle is enough to bring me to happy bridal tears. Thank you!
In a cocoon of ladies shouting “Honey if you lift a finger the day of your wedding I will kill you” I have to admit I am still driven by my profession to pitch in. I know, I will be getting ready and relaxing and enjoying the wonderful anxiety and excitedness (still totally a word) that my wedding day will bring, but I want to be there for guideance and assistance with the “ultra unique bride/planner vision”. Luckily, my linen lady extraordinaire has agreed to be my Day of Coordinator to help alleviate the day of duties I may be tempted to partake in such as setup of the Ceremony & Reception. Having been on the other side of this for so long, I know to trust and appreciate the help that I am being gifted. I may be in rollers, I may be in my fuzzy slippers but I genuinely want to be there to watch the Ceremony & Reception setup come alive!
Let me tell you why: No traditional bride here, big surprise, so our ceremony layout and procession are unique. What better way to enjoy the natural setting than to offer a mix of chairs and picnic blankets. Speaking of chairs… As a planner, my fiancé will tell you as he has c0-coordinated dozens of events with me and that I am very picky about the rows of chairs and how they must be lined up as precisely as possible. It’s a peeve of mine. For our wedding as a way of saying, “This is OUR wedding and we will do it OUR way” we are NOT doing typical rows of chairs. We will actually be grouping them in sets of 2, 3 & 4 along with picnic blankets scattered across the grassy lawn. It will add the perfect touch to the whimsical vision we have. I am excited that I get to work my way through the guests, on non-tradional seating, as a bare-foot bride taking my time to process down the aisle of happiness to my beloved groom with a powerful and beautiful song that we LOVE (Bjork classic).
How can my “hopefully never been done before idea” be pulled off without us there helping with the layout? I believe a bride must be able to communicate exactly what she needs and wants to get it right. Having an onsite coordinator really helps with anxiety and stress levels – they are the perfect person to guide with the things you may be concerned about. The fact that I do this for a living is a blessing and makes me want to take part even more. I love that I get to continue coordination of weddings and receptions long after my own wedding and that I have a team of professional, dedicated like-minds at FantaSea that feel the same way.